|From Indie Porn Revolution|
In reading an article that I expected to say a lot of Stuff I Like To Hear, I found myself challenged by an argument against porn. It went something like this:
"Porn ruins authentic physical intimacy. It makes real sex unsexy..."
I agree that mainstream porn promotes unusual body types (for women: skinny, big boobs; for men: muscular, big penis) as the "norm," which leads people to hold themselves and their partners to unrealistic standards. A man I had a fling with last year once told me, in a frenzy of enthusiasm for my body, "You look like a porn star!" Rather than feeling complimented, I felt objectified to be told that my body fit into the standards of beauty/sex appeal that our society had jammed into this man's brain.
But is porn inherently harmful, or is it just that popular porn often presents unrealistic depictions of people and sex that degrade real people and real sex?
My opinion is that:
1. Porn is a form of erotic art;
2. Erotic art is a valuable part of our culture because humans are sexual beings (which is a good thing) and erotic art appeals to that and helps us to express and enjoy that part of ourselves;
3. Porn that represents humanity and sex accurately and ethically is good for the above reasons.
And guess what!
It seems that ethical porn exists. Here is a directory:
(Taken from this article, not written by me)